kottke.org posts about love

Staring contest

posted by Ainsley Drew   Mar 27, 2009

Love at first sight apparently applies to men only:

Researchers believe that this difference between men and women can best be explained by the fact that the former use eye contact to seek fertile and fit mates. Meanwhile, the latter shy from making eye contact or drawing unwanted attention onto themselves for fear of unwanted pregnancies and single parenthood, it has been said.

The same study found that it takes approximately 8.2 seconds of eye contact for a man to decide if a woman is attractive. It’s hard not to stare at the eyes of photographer Rankin’s hypnotizing Eyescapes for a whole lot longer, but that’s a different type of beauty.

Modern love

posted by Jason Kottke   Mar 10, 2009

A touching story about how a couple learned to live a full life together after the wife was paralyzed from the waist down in a car accident.

We began to think of what we could do to replace playing tennis, walking on the beach, working in the garden. Since Linda loves the ocean, a friend found a specially designed beach chair made of PVC tubing with wide inflated tires that allow it to be pushed across the sand. It’s yellow and white with a big red umbrella.

The first time I saw Linda sitting atop those tubes and under the red umbrella, I told her she looked like Ronald McDonald’s homecoming queen. She laughed like crazy, then repeated it to everyone she knew.

Love, torn apart

posted by Jason Kottke   Dec 12, 2008

In 1953, Molly Howard ripped up almost a hundred love letters written to her by her husband Ted after she discovered someone reading them. It took Ted 15 years to reconstruct all the letters out of the 2000 torn fragments.

An amazing article on the first hand

posted by Deron Bauman   Mar 08, 2008

An amazing article on the first hand experience of a photojournalist who falls in love with a female assassin.

There comes a point in every new relationship when your girlfriend wants to share a secret. Usually it’s to do with sex — how many other partners she’s had (with a few conveniently erased) — that sort of thing. Often, the secret changes the basis of the relationship; honesty comes with consequences. But what happens if your new girlfriend has a much darker and more sinister secret than having slept around a bit?

(via conscientious)

If you love color palettes and people

posted by Jason Kottke   Aug 24, 2005

If you love color palettes and people who love color palettes, you’ll love COLOURlovers. Love love color colour love color love.

A craigslist missed connection for any of

posted by Jason Kottke   Aug 05, 2005

A craigslist missed connection for any of the hot women who were in the audience for Edward Tufte’s lecture. Not too picky, this guy, he’ll take any beautiful woman who was there. Quick, someone snap him up before he makes another sparklines pun.

A text message love affair gone wrong

posted by Jason Kottke   Jul 29, 2005

A text message love affair gone wrong. “How had we managed to speed through all the stages of an actual relationship almost solely via text message? I’d gone from butterflies to doubt to anger at his name on the screen, before we even knew each other.”